Anonymous asked: I was wondering, is there any way we can stop saying that just 'consent is sexy' and more along the lines of 'enthusiastic consent is sexy'?

Not as a critique of this blog, but there's days when I feel a lot of feminist tumblrs tend to forget this small detail. Sometimes a yes isn't always a yes.

We couldn’t agree with you more—a yes is not always a yes. You could say yes because you’re afraid to say no for whatever reason. A ‘yes’ can be coerced; it’s scarily easy in our rape culture society. Your partner can beg and plead and make you feel obligated—make you feel like you can’t say no. Or ply you with drugs and alcohol until you’re so wasted you don’t even know what you’re agreeing to.

We here at Are You Doing It Wrong? feel that consent is enthusiastic participation, and that is what we mean when we say that consent is sexy. (Because really, what’s sexier than eagerly and happily getting it on?)

@11 months ago