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If someone gets too drunk and they pass out, and a gang of dudes decides that they’re going to use that person as a pinata to see who can land the biggest punch, would we say to the drunk person, “Well, you should have known that’s what dudes do.” I would hope not. I would hope you’d be so horrified that anyone would think that beating the shit out of someone for shits and giggles was a fucked up thing to do.
Well, that’s what rape is. It’s a violent assault that uses sex as a weapon instead of fisticuffs. But the general gist is the same. But we get all confused, because we as a culture don’t think of sex as something that men and women do together for fun, but as something men extract from women. If we were clearer on this, why rape isn’t sex wouldn’t be so damn hard to understand. And we wouldn’t tolerate rapists wandering amongst us, free to rape.
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