January 2011
29 posts
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Consent on New Year's (or other alcoholic...
is exactly the same as the rest of the time.
Just because you’re drinking and kissing when the clock strikes midnight, you don’t get to have sex with anyone who doesn’t want to have sex with you.
December 2010
19 posts
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“THE HANDY GUIDE TO NOT RAPING PEOPLE IN SEVEN EASY STEPS
1. When you meet a...”
– Ben Pobjie: The Handy Guide to Not Raping People (via monkeytypist)
this goes for men, queers and every other single person out there.
From the Library: Books to Help Us Understand Rape... →
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The "Sure" Problem
In the past when someone asks if I want to have sex, I say, “Sure.” I say it because I am scared to say no. I say it because it’s the easiest thing. I say, “Sure,” and I am not consenting.
I didn’t realize it, of course. I thought my half-hearted “Sure” was as good as any “yes.” But then one night I was hanging out with my best friend,...
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Sexual ethics as applying to asexuality:...
consensual:
pianycist:
This post is adapted from my response to an asexual anon from Asexual Advice who inquired, “Is it a fair compromise to feel the need to perform for my [non-asexual] partner?”
THIS POST AND ITS OUTGOING LINKS MAY CONTAIN SEXUAL ABUSE, SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ENTITLEMENT TRIGGERS.
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There is a very big difference between
“sure”
and
“yes”.
What To Do If You've Been Sexually Assaulted | The... →
newwavefeminism:
jessicawakeman:
Proud of myself for putting this together so well but so quickly.
Hope no one needs it.
I doubt anyone is going to go to my Tumblr page immedietly after assault, but this is a great resource to keep in your back pocket if you ever need it - or if you want to be well read in case you have a friend in need
Screaming is healthy: Sexual Abuse, even through... →
screamingishealthy:
OTHER FORMS OF SEXUAL ABUSE
There are extremely demeaning and controlling forms of abuse that may or may not co-exist with criminal sexual assault. I call them sexual abuse as they are often based in the desire to control, own or degrade a partner, and are certainly experienced as abusive….
One of the most important things to know for male...
screamingishealthy:
If a boy experiences sexual arousal or orgasm from abuse, this means he was a willing participant or enjoyed it.
In reality, males can respond physically to stimulation (get an erection) even in traumatic or painful sexual situations. Therapists who work with sexual offenders know that one way a perpetrator can maintain secrecy is to label the child’s sexual response as...
Watchbellemanie:
I’m not asking for sympathy or any form of empathtic apologies from anyone.
I made this video to inform people that they’re not alone. There are so many people who keep these dark secrets hidden and it literally annihilate every ounce of hope left in them.
Please reblog this. Even if you don’t really enjoy my blog or my posts… There are so many people I want to help who don’t know...
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An Unconcious Person Cannot Consent To Sex.
Personally, I have a hard time even just calling it a “slippery slope”, it is much more of a free fall for me. As the Jezebel article already states, the acceptance of “advance consent” can definitely lead to the dismissal of marriage rape or, in the event of a rape and following investigation, force the victim to prove they actively said “no”.
It would...
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Long Live The Queen.: So I'm gonna make a... →
jessknight00:
dichotomousreina:
BEFORE I BEGIN: I’m NOT talking about the girls who were genuinely drugged and/or forced against their will to engage in sexual acts.
I was reading an article in Seventeen about this yesterday, all about how the rate of these “rapings” are on the rise and how there are guys who are planning how…
First of all, willingly drinking does not equal sexual consent....
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This Is What Rape Culture Looks Like « →
bellemanie:
It is despicable how the media refuses to expose celebrities as rapists.
reblogging this link specifically because it’s pretty point blank.
read some of the comments especially.
one male reader brings up a great point on how easy it is, especially for your average joe, to perpetuate rape culture when you don’t directly confront it.
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Fingertips and Curvy Hips: Because apparently some... →
dangerouslycoldtea:
A link spam:
This Is What Rape Culture Looks Like [Yes Means Yes]
On “Hey Baby” And The Invisibility Of Managing Sexual Harassment (Invisible To Men, I Mean) [Alas A Blog]
Sexual Force And Reader Consent In Romance [Dear Author]
The Rise Of The Rape Joke [The…
